How To Use Lavender In Love Spells And Rituals?

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By Mark Piatt

Updated on December 20, 2023

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We use Lavender in love spells, love rituals, and love magick due to its sweet fragrance and association with peace, purity, and love.  In some traditions, lavender is combined with other herbs or objects in love spells to strengthen their effectiveness.

Lavender, cherished in love magick and rituals, symbolizes love and purity.

Its soothing fragrance is used in love spells, often paired with roses, to attract and strengthen romantic bonds.

Its calming scent is thought to open the heart, fostering an atmosphere of love and understanding, making it a staple in love-related practices.

Lavender is one of those herbs that you either love the smell or hate the smell.  While I find the aroma smooth and relaxing, both my mother and a good friend of mine do not like the smell.  So hopefully, you are one of those who love the smell and find it useful in your love magick.

In this article, I will explore the fascinating world of how lavender is used in love spells, love magick, and love rituals.  Near the end of the article, I will include a variety of spells you can try yourself.

If you are interested in using other herbs in love spells and rituals, please check out my article “Top 21 Herbs Used For Love Magic and Rituals“.

If you would like to learn about additional magickal properties of lavender, please check out my article “What Are The Magical Properties Of Lavender?“.


The information provided in this article is for educational purposes only.  Occult properties of herbs and essential oils are provided for historical interest only.  For possible treatments of physical or mental diseases, please seek a trained and licensed health professional.  Enchanted Aromatics is not responsible for any adverse side effects resulting from the use of any suggestions, products, preparations, or procedures mentioned or from the following historical uses of herbs and essential oils.

Symbolism and associations with lavender in love spells and love rituals used in witchcraft and other traditions

Lavender, a herb revered in various traditions carries profound symbolism in love spells and rituals. Known for its delicate purple blooms and soothing fragrance, lavender symbolizes love, peace, purification, and protection.

In the realm of love magick, it’s a favored herb due to its gentle yet potent energy.

In love spells, lavender is often used to attract romantic love and enhance existing relationships.

Its calming scent is believed to open the heart chakra, making it easier for love to flourish.

Lavender is commonly paired with other love-enhancing herbs like rose or jasmine to strengthen the spell’s power. These combinations are used in sachets, placed under pillows, or carried around to encourage thoughts of love and to attract a suitable partner.

In love rituals, lavender plays a central role in setting a peaceful and harmonious atmosphere.

It’s used in ritual baths, where its cleansing properties are thought to wash away negativity and prepare the individual for love.

The herb is also used in candle magick, where candles are anointed with lavender oil to focus intentions on attracting or deepening love.

In addition to attracting love, lavender is associated with protection in relationships. It’s believed to guard against deceit and to promote honesty and trust between partners. This aspect makes it a common ingredient in fidelity spells and rituals.

Moreover, lavender’s associations extend to dream work in love magick. Sleeping with lavender under the pillow or in a dream sachet is thought to bring dreams of a future lover or to enhance erotic dreams, further solidifying its place in love-related magickal practices.

Overall, lavender’s multifaceted symbolism in love magick and rituals makes it a versatile and cherished herb in these traditions.

 7 key symbolisms and associations between lavender and love magick 

Lavender in love magick symbolizes attraction, harmony, emotional healing, purification, dreamwork, fidelity, and enhancing sexual desire. It’s used to attract love, smooth conflicts, heal emotional wounds, cleanse negativity, induce love-related dreams, promote trust in relationships, and increase passion.

  1. Love Attraction: Lavender is believed to attract love. Its fragrance and beauty make it a popular choice for spells that aim to draw romantic interests or deepen existing relationships.
  2. Harmony and Peace: This herb symbolizes harmony, making it ideal for rituals intended to smooth over conflicts or enhance understanding and cooperation in a relationship.
  3. Emotional Healing: Lavender is associated with healing, particularly emotional healing. It’s used in love magick to soothe heartache and prepare one for new love.
  4. Purification: In love magick, lavender is often used for its cleansing properties, believed to purify the heart and mind, clearing away obstacles to love.
  5. Dreamwork: Lavender is thought to encourage dreams related to love, making it a common ingredient in spells or sachets placed under pillows for dream divination regarding relationships.
  6. Fidelity and Trust: It’s used in rituals to promote faithfulness and trust in a relationship, enhancing the bond between partners.
  7. Enhancing Sexual Desire: Lavender is sometimes used in love magick to spark or increase sexual desire, believed to add passion to a relationship.

Top 9 ways in which lavender is used in love spells and love magick

Lavender is cherished in love magick for its association with attraction, harmony, and emotional healing. Its soothing fragrance and purifying properties make it ideal for spells aimed at attracting love, resolving relationship conflicts, and fostering trust and fidelity in partnerships.

Warning: If you are using lavender as part of a love and attraction spell, make sure the person you are interested in is in love with you of their own free will.  Also, be sure your intent is friendly and that the relationship will be healthy for both of you.

  1. Attraction Sachets: Lavender is placed in sachets with other herbs to attract love. These sachets are often carried or placed under pillows.
  2. Love Baths: Adding lavender to bathwater is believed to cleanse the aura and attract positive love energies.
  3. Candle Anointing: Lavender oil is used to anoint candles in love spells, setting intentions for attracting or deepening love.
  4. Ritual Offerings: Lavender is offered in rituals to deities associated with love, seeking their favor in love matters.
  5. Smudging and Incense: Burning lavender as incense or smudging with it is thought to purify the space and create a conducive environment for love spells.
  6. Dream Pillows: Lavender-filled pillows are used to induce dreams of love or to reveal insights about future romantic prospects.
  7. Love Potions: Lavender is sometimes included in love potions, believed to enhance their effectiveness in attracting love.
  8. Fidelity Spells: In spells to ensure fidelity, lavender is used for its properties of promoting trust and loyalty in relationships.
  9. Altar Decorations: Lavender is used to decorate altars during love rituals, enhancing the ritual’s focus on love and harmony.

3 love spell examples that include lavender as a main ingredient

The spell examples I give follow sound magickal practices and I follow the tradition of HARM NO ONE.

 A spell using a sachet to attract love that includes lavender as an ingredient 

Creating a magical sachet to attract love is a beautiful and personal ritual. The most important aspect of this process is the intention and energy you put into it. Engage with each step mindfully, infusing your personal energy and desire for love into the sachet. 

You might choose a specific time for the spell, such as during a new moon for new beginnings in love.

Always respect free will; this potion is meant to attract love naturally and should not be intended to coerce or manipulate.


  • A small pouch or piece of cloth (preferably in colors associated with love, like pink or red)
  • Ribbon or string
  • Dried lavender
  • Rose petals (symbolizing love and affection)
  • Jasmine (for attraction and sensuality)
  • Cinnamon (for passion)
  • A small piece of rose quartz (for unconditional love)
  • Optional: A few drops of lavender or rose essential oil


  1. Cleanse Your Space and Ingredients: Begin by cleansing your space and ingredients. You can smudge with sage or simply visualize a bright light purifying your space and materials.
  2. Set Your Intention: As you prepare to make your sachet, focus on your intention to attract love. Visualize the kind of relationship you desire.
  3. Prepare the Sachet: If you’re using a piece of cloth, lay it out flat. If you’re using a ready-made pouch, open it and ready it for filling.
  4. Add the Ingredients:
    • Begin with dried lavender, placing it in the center of the cloth or pouch. Lavender brings peace and calmness, setting a harmonious foundation for your love.
    • Add rose petals, envisioning the petals drawing love towards you.
    • Sprinkle in jasmine, imagining its fragrance attracting a loving partner.
    • Add a pinch of cinnamon to invoke passion and warmth in your future relationship.
    • Place the rose quartz in the center, imbuing the sachet with the energy of unconditional love.
  5. Anoint with Oil (Optional): If you’re using an essential oil, now is the time to add a few drops. This step amplifies the sachet’s energies.
  6. Seal Your Sachet: Gather the edges of the cloth and tie it with the ribbon or string. If using a pouch, draw it closed.
  7. Finalize Your Intention: Hold the sachet in your hands, close your eyes, and again focus on your intention. Feel the energies of the herbs and crystal combining and radiating the essence of love.
  8. Place or Carry the Sachet: You can place the sachet under your pillow, in your purse, or anywhere you feel its presence will be beneficial.

 Fidelity spell that includes lavender 

Creating a magickal fidelity spell with lavender is a thoughtful way to foster trust and loyalty in a relationship.  Your intention and belief greatly influence the power of the spell. The ritual focuses on your will and desire for fidelity in your relationship.

Fidelity spells are considered powerful in many magical traditions primarily due to the deep emotional and psychological components they engage with.

For some people, the power of this ritual lies in the psychological and emotional investment in the ritual, and for others, the power lies in the supernatural effect of the ritual.

Materials Needed:

  • Dried lavender (for trust and peace)
  • A small piece of paper
  • A pen (preferably with blue ink, symbolizing fidelity)
  • A blue candle (blue represents fidelity and trust)
  • A small jar or container
  • Optional: Honey (for sweetness in the relationship)

The Ritual:

  1. Prepare Your Space: Cleanse your space to ensure it’s free from negative energies. You can smudge with sage, or use bells, or visualization techniques.
  2. Set Your Intention: Clearly focus on your intention for fidelity and trust in your relationship. Visualization is powerful here; imagine your relationship filled with unwavering trust and loyalty.
  3. Write Your Intention: On a small piece of paper, write your intention. This could be a specific phrase or affirmation like, “Our relationship grows in trust and loyalty every day.
  4. Prepare the Candle: Light the blue candle, representing fidelity and trust. As you light it, focus on your intention, visualizing a strong, faithful bond in your relationship.
  5. Create the Lavender Mixture: Place dried lavender in the jar. If you choose to use honey, pour it over the lavender, symbolizing the sweet, strong bond in your relationship.
  6. Add Your Written Intention: Fold the paper with your written intention and place it in the jar with the lavender (and honey).
  7. Seal the Jar: Close the jar tightly. As you do so, envision sealing your intention for a faithful, trustworthy relationship.
  8. Meditate on Your Intention: Hold the jar and meditate on your intention. Picture your relationship bathed in the blue light of trust and loyalty emanating from the candle.
  9. Place the Jar Near the Candle: Place the jar near the candle safely. Let the candle burn down completely (always attend to the candle for fire safety).
  10. Store the Jar: After the candle has burned down, place the jar in a special place in your home, such as your bedroom or a personal altar. It will act as a talisman to maintain fidelity in your relationship.
  11. Regular Renewal: Periodically, you can reinforce the spell by repeating the meditation and visualization, holding the jar, and focusing on your continuous intention for fidelity.

 Love attraction spell with lavender within a Wiccan framework 

In Wicca, spells are often focused on personal empowerment, harmony with nature, and ethical considerations. Here’s a detailed example of a Wiccan love spell using lavender, focusing on attracting love in a way that respects free will:

The most important aspect of this spell is your intention and the energy you put into it.

Wiccan ethics emphasize harm to none, so ensure your spell respects the free will of others.

The power of love spells in Wicca often lies in opening oneself to love and enhancing personal attractiveness, rather than compelling or controlling others.

Materials Needed:

  • Dried lavender (for love and peace)
  • Pink candle (symbolizing love and affection)
  • Rose quartz (stone of unconditional love)
  • A small piece of paper and pen
  • A fireproof container or cauldron


  1. Prepare Your Space: Create a sacred space. You might want to cast a circle, call the quarters, or simply meditate to ground and center yourself. Cleansing your space with sage or incense is also a good practice.
  2. Set Your Intention: While love spells should never be used to manipulate or control another person, you can set an intention to open your heart to love, to be more receptive to love, or to recognize love when it arrives. Avoid targeting a specific individual.
  3. Light the Candle: Light the pink candle. As you do, visualize the flame igniting the love you wish to attract in your life. Feel the warmth of love growing within and around you.
  4. Write Your Intention: On a piece of paper, write your intention. Phrase it positively and in the present tense, like “I am open to the love that is meant for me.”
  5. Surround with Lavender and Rose Quartz: Place the rose quartz near the candle, and surround them both with dried lavender. The rose quartz amplifies love energy, while the lavender brings peace and harmony to your love intention.
  6. Meditate and Visualize: Spend some time meditating on your intention. Visualize love coming into your life, imagine how it feels, and trust that the universe will bring love in the right form.
  7. Burn the Paper (Safely): Once you feel your intention is fully charged, carefully burn the piece of paper in your fireproof container or cauldron. This symbolizes sending your intention out into the universe.
  8. Close the Spell: Thank any deities, spirits, or elements you called upon. Ground yourself, release the circle if you cast one, and extinguish the candle. Trust that your spell is at work.
  9. After the Spell: Carry the rose quartz with you or keep it in a place you frequent. Let the lavender remain near your bed or in a place where you spend a lot of peaceful time.

Magickal resources

There are many resources I have used to learn about magick and to compile these articles.

If you are interested in plant magick (or magick in general), here are 4 books that should be in your collection: (but there are many more).

Plant Magic for the Beginner Witch: An Herbalist’s Guide to Heal, Protect, and Manifest

Blackthorn’s Botanical Magic

The Witch’s Book of Spellcraft:  A Practical Guide to Connecting with the Magick of Candles, Crystals, Plants & Herbs

Solitary Witch: The Ultimate Book of Shadows for the New Generation

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Lavender’s use in love magick spans various cultures and occult practices globally, revered for its metaphysical properties of attraction, emotional healing, and harmony.

Across cultures, lavender’s calming scent and beautiful blooms make it a staple in love-related magickal practices, symbolizing a gentle, nurturing aspect of love.

Lavender symbolizes love, trust, and devotion. These qualities are fundamental in any love-related spell or ritual, making lavender a popular choice for reinforcing these aspects.

Its versatility in different forms – such as dried flowers, oils, and incense – makes lavender a practical and multifunctional herb for various love rituals and spells.

If you are interested in learning about some general magickal properties of other essential oils and herbs, check out my article “15 Magical Properties of Essential Oils“.  

If you know of other magickal properties of lavender in love spells or different ways in which you use lavender in your love rituals, I would love to hear from you so I may incorporate what you share in this article.

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