So you need to decrease your anger because your amygdala is acting up.  Before you can deal with your anger, you first must calm down. 

Imagine going out grocery shopping but you are not in the best of moods.  Suddenly as you pass by the fresh flower section, those wonderful aromas hit your nose.  All of a sudden you find that through the magic of aromas, your mood has suddenly been uplifted to a better place.  This is the magic of aromas.  

If you are looking for a natural way to decrease your anger and calm down, there are many essential oils that can be used in a diffuser that may help you calm down.  The five best essential oils to decrease your anger are:

  • Bergamot or Orange
  • Chamomile Roman
  • Lavender
  • Myrhh
  • Ylang Ylang

What is Bergamot essential oil?

Bergamot fruit
Bergamot Fruit

Bergmot is a citrus fruit that smells fresh, lemony, and citrusy with a slight floral note. Usually the rind is used for extracting the essential oil.  Although it is mainly a tropical plant, it can also be found throughout Europe. 

For centuries, people have been using bergamot to treat stress, anxiety, and depression.

Today there are many who swear on the properites of bergamot being able to help with depression and anger, but like many essential oils, there are very few studies in this area.  Most of what we know about bergamots abilities is through historical and anecdotal reports,

In one randomized crossover study published in 2015, bergamots psychological and endocrinolgical effects in humans was investigated.  

The study concluded that bergamot can be used as a simple means of stress reduction.  

Other studies have found that bergamot generated feelings of freshness, joy and a sense of happiness. 

Hospitals will sometimes use this essential oil in waiting rooms in order to improve positive feelings.

This is one of our favorite oils to use around our home.  It just feels “refreshing” after using this essential oil in the diffuser.  

What is Chamomile Roman essential oil?

Chamomile roman
Chamomile roman

Would you believe chamomile roman is one of the most ancient medicinal herbs known to man? 

This essential oil has been used to promote relaxation and to help calm the nerves.  It can also help with sleep issues. 

Chamomile smells sweet, kind of like apples of all things.  The essential oil is extracted from the flowers, usually through steam distillation.

Chamomile is used in many health products and there have been numerous studies conducted on its health effects.  One of the most documented uses is for relaxation. 

Since it has a great calming effect, chamomile helps to reduce anger.  Studies have shown that chamomile can reduce anxiety and help improve sleep patterns.  For this reason, it has been used in hospitals and ICU’s.

In 2009 a randomized double blind study was conducted on the ability for chamomile’s ability to reduce anxiety and depression.  It was found that it may have a meaning full ability to reduce depression and anxiety.  This in turn can reduce anger.

What is Lavender essential oil?

Field of lavender

Lavender is one of the most used essential oils. 

Believe it or not, lavender is part of the mint family of plants. Besides having a pleasant fresh flowery type of smell, lavender is a gentle oil. 

Lavender oil is extracted through steam distillation.  If you like the smell of fresh flowers in your home, then this is the oil for you.

Many studies have been conducted on the positive effects of lavender essential oil. 

One such study found that diffusing lavender twice a day for the elderly can reduce their frequency of agitation.

But, do keep in mind that for some people, under certain conditions, lavender can have an opposite effect.  

But for most people, lavender is great for stress relief, anxiety reduction, mood improvements, and depression. 

Be aware though, because lavender is so popular, there are cheap lavender oils out there that smell like lavender, but do not have the same properties of lavender.

There are many blends out there to help reduce anger, and many of them include lavender. 

Some people just love the smell of lavender while others do not like the smell of lavender.  For some, at first they do not like the small but it eventually grows on them.

What is Myrrh essential oil?


Myrrh is most commonly known as one of the gifts the three wise men brought to Jesus in the New Testament. 

It is extracted from the resin of the myrrh tree.  The tree trunks are cut in order to bleed the trees.  Steam distillation is then used to extract the essential oil. 

Myrrh has a smokey, sweet and sometimes bitter smell. 

Myrrh has a compound called sesquiterpenes.

This compound effects the emotional center of our hypothalamus, helping to keep us calm, relaxed, and balanced. 

Myrrh can also help slowdown your breathing and can help you to relax and restore mental clarity.  

Aromatherapists love to use myrrh for massages because of its calming qualities. 

What is Ylang Ylang essential oil?

Ylang ylang flower
Ylang ylang

Ylang Ylang is one of the newer essential oils to hit the market.

The oil comes from the fresh flowers of the tropical Ylang Ylang tree usually found in Asia and some South Pacific islands.

People from these regions have used ylang ylang for centuries to decorate the beds of newlyweds. 

It has a heavy, sweet, floral smell that is slightly fruity. 

Ylang ylang is used in many perfume type products. 

Ylang ylang is one essential oil in which there are different grades available.  Distillation is stopped at several stages and the essential oil produced at each stage is removed. 

This produces the various grades of Ylang Ylang: Extra, 1, 2, 3 and Complete.  Extra and Complete are considered good choices for aromatherapy.  Other grades are more suitable for potpourri, candles, and other crafting applications.

The smell is considered to be romantic and uplifting.  For this reason, ylang ylang is great for controlling anger.  Using ylang ylang will help create a calming and relaxing feeling around your home.  This essential oil has the ability to act like a mild natural depression remedy. 

In a eight week single blind study involving 36 women of various ages, the study concluded that stress was reduced sooner when ylang ylang was used in aromatherapy treatments.


In conclusion, these 5 essential oils may be able to provide you with a sense of calm during times of anger.  Remember, everyone responds differently to essential oils.  One essential oil may help and individual while it may have no effect on another individual.  

But at the very least, the essential oils will leave your space smelling really good.  



Information provided in this description is for educational purposes only.  For possible treatments of physical or mental diseases, please seek a trained and licensed health professional.  Enchanted Aromatics is not responsible for any adverse affects resulting from the use of any suggestions, products, preparations, or procedures mentioned or from following historical uses of essential oils.

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